“Inside Out” Emotions Tool Box Idea

Inside Out Emotions Tool Box sourced from Scleratus Classical Academy via RedWhiteandGrew.comImage credit: Sceleratus Classical Academy

Words cannot adequately convey my enthusiasm for this Inside Out-inspired toolbox by my friend Mrs. Warde over at Sceleratus Classical Academy. It’s a wonderful, imaginative way to take the lessons from the hit movie into one’s home, homeschool, or even a classroom.

She writes:

I grew up in households that did not talk about emotions and expected you to stop strong emotions before they became a problem. It was the exact opposite of what I needed due to my history, and as a result I grew up stuffing emotions until I couldn’t take it any longer and exploded. To be fair, this it is how my grandparents were raised and was they only way they knew. But I am determined to do better for my own kids. The problem is, until very recently, never having been taught any tools I was unsure what to tell my own kids. I also lacked any confidence that what I might come up with is “right.” That’s where Disney’s new movie, Inside Out, really helped me.

What Mrs. Warde describes is an issue common to many parents–and a big reason why families are responding so favorably to this fantastic movie.

As someone who just spent two years thinking and writing about relational aggression–and what families can do to nurture healthy relationships, I love how how she pairs easy-to-craft projects with the movie’s over-arching theme: emotions are normal.

Be sure to see her emotions-themed Pinterest board, too.

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{Reader Remarks} Are Bullies Born or Made?

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My new book on bullying and gifted kids will be released mid-July by my publisher, GHF Press. Hurrah!

In case you haven’t heard, the title is Gifted, Bullied, Resilient: A Brief Guide for Smart Families. Over the next few weeks I’ll be writing here about the book’s launch, reception, and a couple of public appearances.

While preparing for the book’s arrival, I’ve been, well, nesting. That means, for a writer, cleaning up the blog and my social media channels (especially Facebook and Twitter). In so doing, I ran across the following comment left by a reader a few months back.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on it:

The sad fact is that gifted children are not only bullied by other children, they are also bullied by adults. Growing up as a gifted child I ran into this from a few teachers and it would be a year-long torture. Both of our children are gifted and I noticed a huge change in how teachers and staff related to them. The teachers were more overt in their attacks on gifted kids. My daughter was willing to let the teacher stand in front of the class teaching things that were very, very wrong. After class she would teach her friends what was correct and what was not. Our son, on the other hand, didn’t want his classmates to learn garbage and, in a very diplomatic way, ask the teacher an “I had heard once . . .” type question. Some responded in a positive manner, others threw him out of class. Some office staff were vicious. I actually had to remove both children from a school due to office staff behavior. Other parents in the same school had restraining orders against certain staff. While our son did not go to college, our daughter and I both did. Even in graduate school, we both ran into bullies. Me in seminary, she in medical school. Bullies are the product of their early environments and their own need to feel they have a sense of power somewhere, anywhere. Unfortunately, I believe the only way to end the creation of bullies is early (before age 2) intervention in family life. Most bullies are not born, they are made. And, the only thing a bully understands is a bigger bully. How sad.

What do you think? Have you encountered adults who have bullied children? Do you believe that bullies are solely “born and not made”? Is an aggressive two-year-old doomed for a life of bullying?

Most importantly, what do you believe parents and educators can do to help keep bullying in check, be it from an adult or a child?

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