{From Blog to Book Giveaway} “Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World” by Christine Fonseca

Update: A winner has been contacted and this giveaway is now closed.

Quiet Kids Book Giveaway on Red White and Grew

Long-time RW&G readers know that, from time to time, I like to showcase the work of my fellow authors. Most of these writers have made the switch from “blog to book” just like me, so it’s great fun to help them connect with my fans.

The featured book for this month’s giveaway is Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World* (Prufrock Press, 2013). The author is Christine Fonseca, who graciously agreed to answer a few questions about Quiet Kids. (Note that she’s a talented and prolific writer (fiction and non-fiction) whom I admire very much.)

RW&G: What prompted you to write “Quiet Kids”?

CF: The idea came from conversations with my most amazing editor, Lacy Compton at Prufrock Press. We both felt that there were not enough resources for parents related to temperament. We wanted to create something that could provide usable tips for parents in a reader-friendly format. I am happy to report that I think we really achieved that with this book.

RW&G: I’m currently researching a book on bullying and relational aggression, so I’d love to hear how you think introverted kids experience bullying in their schools and communities. Is it the same or different as more extroverted kids? What can parents do to help introverted kids cope with these sorts of challenges?

CF: Relational aggression is another topic that is near and dear to my heart. In truth, both introverts and extroverts can be the victim of bullying, and yes both can become perpetrators of acts of relational aggression too. In terms of the difference in experiencing bullying, I think introverts struggle differently. They are less likely to report a bully then their extroverted counterparts, and are more likely to hold in and mask the detrimental effects. This, I think, is the biggest danger facing introverted children with regards to acts of bullying.

Parents can help in a couple of ways. First, coach children in the area of social skills and self-advocacy. The more comfortable an introverted child is with themselves, the less impacting a bully can be. Help the child establish “safe zones” on campus – p[laces to go if he/she has become overwhelmed by social dynamics of school. And finally, teach introverted children the specifics of reporting acts of bullying in all their many forms. Teach them, also, what to do if they witness acts of bullying. These skills can help our introverted children mitigate the impact of bullying for them and others.

RW&G: Quiet kids eventually grow up and many become quiet adults. What unique opportunities and challenges do these adults face, especially as parents?

CF: Perhaps the biggest challenge facing the introverted child-turned-parent is parenting extroverted children. There is a lot of pressure to have kids actively involved in many activities, and to be highly involved in school, etc. This can be highly taxing on the energy levels of the introvert – both adults and children. We live in a world that celebrates the extroverted among us. This can put a lot of pressure on introverts to be highly social and involved in social arenas, often to the expense of their internal energy reserves. As this happens, the introvert, child and adult, will become more agitated and anxious. The cycle continues until the introvert finally takes some time for solitary renewal, something that can be a challenge in our busy world. It is important that introverted children, and introverted adults, remember to take time away (in solitude, if possible) to renew and refresh before their energy systems are too drained.

Thanks so much, Christine, for the interview.

Christine Fonseca’s Author Bio:

Christine Fonseca Award winning non-fiction and young adult (“YA”) author Christine Fonseca is dedicated to helping children of all ages find their voice in the world. In fiction, she explores the darker aspects of humanity and delivers Gothic thrillers that take you on a roller coaster ride of emotions.

In addition to writing, Ms. Fonseca is a frequent presenter and trainer on subjects ranging from writing to behavior and understanding the unique needs of gifted children. She blogs regularly on many sites and participates in events throughout the country.

When Christine isn’t crafting her next book and working with kids, she can be found sipping too many skinny vanilla lattes at her favorite coffee house or exploring the world with her family.

You can learn more about Christine and her work through her website, her author’s blog, and her Facebook fan page.

Giveaway Details*:

Readers, would you like a chance to win Quiet Kids? Leave a comment below. (You’re also encourage to pin this post over on Pinterest for extra Karma points, but I won’t ask y’all to jump through a bunch of hoops to enter.)

The deadline to enter the drawing is November 30th at 5PM. The winner will be announced via the RW&G Facebook page the following week.

* FCC Disclosure: This is an Amazon Affiliate link.

**FCC Disclosure: I was in no way compensated for this post or giveaway promotion.

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12 comments

  1. My introverted daughter really struggles in my very extroverted family. My husband and I (both INTPs) “get” her. But family events are quite a challenge. Sounds like a great book!

  2. I have two very introverted children, and with them, as with all of the kids, we simply accept them for who they are. It is amazing, though, how often people outside the family think we should somehow change or “fix” them. We, of course, don’t let them!

  3. My husband and I are both introverts, and our children are both extroverts. It is incredible difficult to parent a child with a temperament different from your own.

  4. I would love to read this! I have two year old toddlers – my girl is definitely going to be/is an extrovert & my boy I think is going to be an introvert! I want to make sure I’m doing everything I can to help both succeed!

  5. I’m an introvert and there’s a huge bias against it in our culture. My husband and older son are extroverts, but my younger son is an introvert. My adolescence wasn’t that great, and I struggle with helping my son to do better. (Though I do know better than to try to force him to be an extrovert.) I love him the way he is, but I don’t want him to suffer the way I did.

  6. My son is an introvert. He’s an amazing and funny but oh so selective about who he chooses to speak with.

  7. I have 4 children but only 1 is introverted. It’s hard for her in a house like ours which she thinks is loud and annoying.However, it is better than the school environment where she was bullied to the point we HAD to homeschool her. She is doing much better now but I do worry what’s going to happen when she grows up. There is so much she needs to learn about standing up for herself and finding a job that won’t overwhelm her. Great to learn about your book which can be a resource for many of us.

  8. So true that our society celebrates extroverts and it can be hard for an introvert to find his or her place in it comfortably. Would love to read your book.

  9. I’m an introvert parenting an only-child introvert. She wants friendship but seems to lack the social skills at navigating the social world. I never really learned to navigate the social world myself, so it pains me to see her struggle in the same ways I did..

  10. My 9 year old daughter and I, her dad, are both introverts. My 11 year old son and his mom are both extroverts. I love my son of course but his extroversion is sometimes irritating to me, especially at the breakfast table when my introverted self needs time to catch up the the pace that he sets for our household. But he is only being himself and I feel bad sometimes that I communicate to him that he is annoying! At the same time my extroverted spouse is often discouraged by our introverted daughter’s behavior, who as a child never showed an interest in playing interactive games with her and seemed to struggle in large social settings. The two of them struggle to connect. As parents I’m humbled to say we are just catching on to this dynamic in our family but we are determined to learn ways to appreciate – rather than be annoyed or discouraged by – our kids’ very different personalities and behaviors.

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