Contemplating “Opportunity Fatigue”

Contemplating opportunity fatigue


My friend Jade Rivera wrote a post last week that hit me right in the heart.

It’s about what she calls “opportunity fatigue“:

A person with opportunity fatigue is exhausted in the face of almost unlimited opportunities for growth and learning, who could self-actualize in any given direction if they weren’t overwhelmed with constraints, options, and decisions.

This made so much sense to me, on so many fronts, that I stared at the words on my monitor, mouth agape for several minutes.

Yes, Jade. This. This. THIS.

In a world where we feel compelled to “do all the things,” there comes a point when one starts to ask how, when, and eventually why?

Jade acknowledges upfront that there is a lot of privilege tied to this phenomenon, and other friends point out, rightly, that there is some overlap here with polymaths and multipotentialites (a.k.a. “gifted adults”). Yes, I say, to all of that. It doesn’t make opportunity fatigue any less overwhelming, however, if you’re sinking or mired in it.

There are some issues here related to mid-life crises, too. Not the kind dramatized in media (cougars in tight skirts and men in fast cars) but rather those quiet, uneasy moments when one realizes life really is short and it might be running out on you personally. Basically, it’s the kind of stuff every middle-aged woman I know is going through this week, to some extent. Continue reading

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A New Study on Workaholism: What Does it Mean for 2E Adults?


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Plos One  published a large study on workaholism that links it to ADHD, OCD, anxiety and depression. It seems relevant to many populations, but I’m thinking “grown and flown” gifted/twice-exceptional adults need to give this some serious thought.

I dashed off a general post about it this morning over on Linked In, but I didn’t break the news down for 2E folks in particular. That conversation fits better here at, I think.

Here’s what I’m mulling over along those lines.

Since young, bright women are, according to researchers, especially prone to workaholism, this study has some hidden insights for parents. For starters, teaching mindfulness and self-care in the home from an early age may be preventative, giving young adults rootedness in something other than work (or school or sports or whatever).

Quick thoughts on workaholism and gifted and 2e adults from

Adults, too, will want to give pause to considering whether their hyper-fixation on work is a result of hyperfocus (which often attends ADHD) or flow, a more benign but still intense state of satisfaction and productivity. Personally, I think they’re two sides of the same coin and require mindful self-management strategies to keep the “flow” side facing up.

If you’d like to weigh in here about what this study might mean for 2E people (specifically those with giftedness and comorbid ADHD, OCD, anxiety, or depression), I’m all ears here, on Facebook, and on Twitter.


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