My friend Jade Rivera wrote a post last week that hit me right in the heart.
It’s about what she calls “opportunity fatigue“:
A person with opportunity fatigue is exhausted in the face of almost unlimited opportunities for growth and learning, who could self-actualize in any given direction if they weren’t overwhelmed with constraints, options, and decisions.
This made so much sense to me, on so many fronts, that I stared at the words on my monitor, mouth agape for several minutes.
Yes, Jade. This. This. THIS.
In a world where we feel compelled to “do all the things,” there comes a point when one starts to ask how, when, and eventually why?
Jade acknowledges upfront that there is a lot of privilege tied to this phenomenon, and other friends point out, rightly, that there is some overlap here with polymaths and multipotentialites (a.k.a. “gifted adults”). Yes, I say, to all of that. It doesn’t make opportunity fatigue any less overwhelming, however, if you’re sinking or mired in it.
There are some issues here related to mid-life crises, too. Not the kind dramatized in media (cougars in tight skirts and men in fast cars) but rather those quiet, uneasy moments when one realizes life really is short and it might be running out on you personally. Basically, it’s the kind of stuff every middle-aged woman I know is going through this week, to some extent. Continue reading